Fame and Love Never Mix

Have you ever wondered why relationships between stars (i.e. actors, actresses, singers, basketball players) never last? I think one of the reasons is that fame and love never mix. To name a few… Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake, Kirsten Dunst and Jake Gylenhaal, Paris Hilton and Paris (sumthin’), Bing Loyzaga and Janno Gibbs, John Estrada and Vanesa del Bianco, Pops and Martin… Only few relationships (in show business anyway) tend to last forever.

Fame and love never mix because with fame comes competition in different forms. One of the overused reasons is “irreconcilable differences.” What does this mean anyway? This means nobody has time enough to really sit and talk about what’s wrong! The other most obvious reason is a “third party.” Well this simply means you’ve fallen out of love and putting all the blame on the third party. Or maybe the reason is simply that an actress or an actor simply flirted with somebody (who probably has commitments already) using her/his beauty and body. When the seduction succeeds, there would be a “secret” relationship. Why secret? Because the relationship is supposed to be forbidden since one has already a commitment with someone else. Anyway, when everyone finds out about this relationship, the actress would cry her heart out (to get the public’s sympathy) and say “we fell in love with each other,” or “we did it for love.” In reality though, it started out with flirting. You think you came out clean there lady?

Well, let’s focus on TIME (or the lack of it). I think this is one of the major reasons why fame and love never mix. Of course, if you were famous, you’d have projects/endorsements left and right. Putting on make-up alone would already eat up a lot of your time. You’d have to appear beautiful at all times for the public to admire you…so you go to the salon to have your hair and nails done…then off to the spa for a body massage, foot spa and a facial…to your favorite designer for a list of clothes you need for the next week or two…Hectic huh? Have you ever been to a make-up room? I’m sure in every make-up room, you’d hear the words “hurry up,” “could somebody get this hair done?” or “how do I look?” (even if she has this big mirror in front of her) See, they’re quite busy. So what happens is that they meet a beautiful girl or boy – and in such a short time “fall in love” (even if they hardly had the time to get to know each other). As expected, after realizing they’ve had enough of each other, they break up.

PEER PRESSURE could be another reason why fame and love never mix. I can just imagine the pressure and stress a showbiz personality has to endure just to maintain a certain image and a circle of so-called friends. Then of course there’s always the thought that tomorrow may not be your time anymore – with many new talents coming in. Whew! What happens is that when you get pissed (which could be often), you blow off steam at your partner. Expectedly, at the end of a month or two, you call it quits.

There could be a thousand and one reasons (excuses) why fame and love never mix. But I’m sure there are also a thousand and one ways to enable fame and love to mix. I think that love, whether between famous people and between the not-so-famous people, is just the same. Love may not also work for the not-so-famous people (just like the famous ones). In order for love to last forever, both have to work for it. Time should not be made an excuse, instead manage it well and use it as a weapon to strengthen your relationship. I am not sure where the future will lead me (will it lead me to fame or not?). But definitely, when it comes to relationships, I want mine to be just like that of my parents – still going strong after 14 years of married life! (Eat your heart out Britney Spears!)